Milhause:
The first time can be daunting but here are some things I wish someone had told me. Take it slow. Be open and communicative about what feels good and what doesn’t. If a position isn’t working, don’t be afraid to suggest switching things up. It’s okay to take breaks. The best sex I’ve ever had involved laughter, because sex includes a lot of weird noises, smells and other things.
As for the confidence issue, consider the following: we are rarely our own “type.” I’ve been with my partner for almost 10 years and when I look in the mirror I STILL think ‘Wouldn’t she prefer a tall guy? Or if I were more muscular?’ And yet, I’m her type. Physically, she’s apple shaped with a big tummy and she used to roll her eyes when I’d say she’s my exact type, but she IS. 10/10 times I will find her to be the most beautiful woman in any room she’s in. It’s difficult to believe that other people would find us attractive when all we see are our perceived flaws. But for someone else, they just see all the things they like.
IHatedMyFatBody:
Do people ever had sex while feeling they look ugly ? I know my boyfriend finds me gorgeous but I don't see what he sees. If I wait until I feel pretty while naked to have sex, I may die a virgin.
That happens all the time. I think of myself as a very attractive person, but some days I think I look like shit. Maybe I'm bloated or broke out in hives or something. I'll want to cover up or something, but every time, my partner will look at me like I am the most attractive woman in the world.
And to him, I am. I could be sleep-deprived, sick, with wicked bed-head, and scruffy PJs. Still, he looks at me and says things like "You're so beautiful. I can't get enough of you. You're the best I've ever had." I might still feel insecure, but it's hard to stay that way when the man I love treats me like this.
